Introduction:
- Addresses the common experience of developing feelings for someone special.
- Explores the challenges Christians face when they like someone and want to approach the situation wisely.
Tip 1: Discern Idea vs. Reality
- Reference: Judges 16:4-6 (The story of Samson and Delilah)
- Description and Suggestions:
- Highlights the danger of being misled by feelings and falling for the idea of a person rather than their reality.
- Encourages self-reflection to understand the true reasons behind one’s attraction.
- Specific Actions:
- Evaluate whether your feelings are based on superficial factors (like loneliness or physical appearance) or on the person’s true character.
- Consider if you are idealizing the person or seeing them as they truly are.
- Be honest with yourself about the nature of your attraction.
Tip 2: Look for Overlapping Paths
- Reference: Amos 3:1-3
- Description and Suggestions:
- Stresses the importance of aligning life paths and goals, especially in spiritual matters.
- Advises considering whether a potential partner would support or hinder your life direction and faith journey.
- Specific Actions:
- Reflect on your own life goals, career ambitions, and spiritual journey.
- Assess if the person you like shares similar goals and values.
- Determine whether the relationship would positively contribute to your mutual growth and God’s plan for your lives.
Tip 3: Grow in Love
- Reference: Philippians 2:3-4
- Description and Suggestions:
- Encourages developing a selfless and caring approach towards the person you like, irrespective of whether the relationship evolves romantically.
- Suggests using the experience as an opportunity to practice Christian love and service.
- Specific Actions:
- Be a genuine friend to the person, valuing their well-being above your romantic interests.
- Serve and support them in a way that reflects Christ’s love, regardless of the outcome.
- Embrace the experience as a lesson in love, whether it leads to a relationship or not.
Conclusion:
- Summarizes the three tips: discerning reality from idealization, aligning life paths, and growing in selfless love.
- Emphasizes the importance of seeking advice from experienced individuals, especially those in long-term marriages.
- Reminds viewers of the overarching presence of Jesus’ love in the journey of understanding and navigating romantic feelings.